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Master Bedroom Reveal

My inspo came from one single Pinterest picture and I will say I am so happy how our master bedroom turned out. I wanted a clean minimal and more modern space that didn’t feel cluttered or over decorated. The only thing that is missing is a rug, which was a veto from the hubby! We replaced all the carpet upstairs and he hates when rugs on carpets haha! I had to pick my battle my for this one! He let me have a rug in Henley’s room, so I guess we both won! ALL THE LINK ARE BELOW! Frames Above Bed: Ikea Prints: Society 6 Abstract Art Print Bed Frame: Thuma Mattress: Puffy Mattress Bedding: Mellanni Fine Linens– Code: 10Mellanni41 or from Amazon Nightstands: we bought them from offer up and they are pretty much sold out/ out of stock everywhere! Here are some similar ones: Lowes-Decor Therapy Mid Century, Milo Black Nightstand, Amazon Modern 2 drawer, Wicker Double Laundry Basket: Amazon, Overstock, World Market. They also sell a ton of similar ones at HomeGoods and TJ Maxx! Dresser: Purchased this from Craigslist for $50 about 8 years ago and its one of my favorite pieces! Always check FB marketplace, Offer Up Plants all real from Lowes or Home Depot (Keep your reciepts! If they die you can return or exchange!) Acrylic Jewelry Box (I found mine for $12 at Home Goods) & Acrylic Sunglass Box Matte Black Ceiling Fan: Home Depot For some more decor inspiration, head over to these mama blogs and check out what they are sharing!  Just Click the Picture to head over to their BLOGS! 

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Surrogacy: Birth Story

Knowing I was going to be induced at 39 weeks, week 38 was the longest week of my entire pregnancy! Mentally I was doing great but once I got that solid end date, my mind went from hanging on-to LET’S GOOO! The night before I was induced, I don’t think I slept a straight 4 hours. Nerves, getting up to pee, the baby kicking, the excitement for the intended parents, everything was keeping me up! Finally, 7am Tuesday morning rolled around, and Luke and I went to the hospital to be admitted…  8:30am: My Dr. met us there, and I was officially admitted. Upon arrival I was 3cm and 90% effaced. 10:30am: Pitocin was started Because of Covid, we weren’t really sure if the parents were going to be able to be in the room to see the birth of their baby boy, BUT the hospital allowed them to be, and they joined us around 12:30pm and at the same exact time, I was standing up because I felt like I needed to pee. As I stood, I felt water dripping down my leg….I thought WOW I really must not have any bladder control right now, and embarrassed, I told Luke “I think I’m peeing myself-I need to hurry” haha! As I walked across my room to the bathroom a trail of water was being left behind, and a big gush came as I entered the bathroom! MY WATER BROKE!! Honestly this was one of the worst parts of my entire birth story. Over the next hour, the constant feeling of -I just peed myself- was SO uncomfortable to me, but I was glad my water broke on its own. 1pm: [6cm/90% effaced/ baby at -1] Contractions were strong but the epidural was on its way! I was naturally contracting, so they stopped my pitocin drip!  Once the epidural was given, life got a whole lot easier! I was able to get some sleep and also spend some time talking to the intended parents.  4pm: Nurse did another cervix check, unfortunately no progress, and my contractions started to slow down. So I was back on the pitocin & the waiting game continued. I was also given the Peanut Ball. This was amazing! Because the baby was still at a -1 and I hadn’t progressed, it was offered in order to help open up my pelvis while I was laying down. It was honestly super comfortable and did the trick! 6:15pm: I started feeling super sick. The Nausea was so bad, and I was starting to feel the contractions, they were definitely coming in fast, consistent, and strong! Since I had an epidural, they were manageable, and I decided to hold off on increasing my epidural dose. I tried sleeping to take the edge off the nausea. 6:45pm: EXTREME SHAKES & nausea. WOW! the shakes were awful! I could not stop shaking and shivering. Luke held my hand and was the best support person I could ever ask for, but I knew the end was close! The pressure during each contraction was so strong, and the nurse did a cervix check. As she checked, she said “oh YEP he is right there!” I was 10 cm, 100% effaced, and the baby’s head was about to crown. She immediately called the Dr. in.  7pm: Dr. Told me to push.   PUSH 1: The baby’s head was half way out. Dr. then proceeded to tell me to stop and wait. Wait because he wasn’t ready haha! He didn’t have his gloves or anything on yet because he didn’t realize just how close this baby was to coming!  7:02pm: Dr told me to do a soft push and hold. PUSH 2: The baby’s entire head was out followed by another soft push before his little body was born into the world!  SURRO BABE WAS BORN & HE WAS PERFECTLY HEALTHY! I was so blessed to have no tearing, just one “small scratch” the Dr. said haha!  To be honest, I was not sure what to expect once the baby was born. Would he be put on my chest? Would he be taken away to be monitored, would the parents hold him right when he was born….there were so many questions that weren’t ever directly answered….but here it was, and every minute of the experience was perfect!  The baby was placed on my chest, while they monitored his breathing. The parents also chose to get chord blood, so during that process the chord had to be intact, and not yet cut, another reason for placing baby with me. After about 10 min, the parents were able to cute the chord. The nurses got him cleaned up a bit and passed him off to the parents, who immediately did skin too skin. It was such a happy moment to see that little boy in his parents arms!  Luke never left my side. He was a constant source of strength, holding my hand, and giving me the best words of encouragement! His birth was better than I could have imagined. Although a different experience, compared to my birth with Henley (since I was induced), it was exactly what I had hoped it would be. 

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Henley’s Toddler Room Reveal

I was so so excited to be working on Henley’s toddler room when we moved! I wanted to create a fun, but still minimal simple space that she could grow with. We knew she would be in her crib for a bit longer (basically waiting until she decides to crawl out of that thing-haha!) but we also wanted to leave space for a big girl bed in the future. We are so lucky that her room has so much space! We were able to create a reading space, a space for toys, her play kitchen, and my absolute favorite, her swing! BEFORE: AFTER: ROOM DETAILS: Paint Color: Sherwin Williams “Sweet as a Peach” Rug: Well Woven Gwendolyn Blush Modern Bohemian Rug or Home Depot Mystic Gwendolyn Modern Bohemian Vintage Medallion Blush Reading Corner Rug: Faux Fur Rug  Pillows: Home Goods Play Kitchen: Ikea and under $100! Bookshelf: Ikea Kallax Shelf Unit. They have so many sizes and it is SO functional! Swing: Macrame Baby Swing @hangahammock or an awesome amazon find for half the price! Mirror: Target Wooden Ladder Mirror (currently not in stock) but here’s another Target Free Standing Mirror that is super similar Crib: Baby Mod Marley 3-in-1 Convertable Crib Unfortunately it is sold out everywhere but its found on Amazon and All Modern (back in stock beginning of Sept) If you have time wait it out because it’s under $200!! BUT I am linking some super similar ones here: Roscoe 3-in-1, Lolly 3-in-1, Ikea Crib, Sprout 4-in-1, Soho 4-in-1 Fiddle Leaf Tree: Real from Home Depot Wall Hang: I made it myself Rocking Horse: My grandpa actually made it for me when I was younger but linking some others for you! Zulily Bamboo Rocking Horse Poppie Rocking Horse Amazon Barn Oak Rocking Horse (Most similar looking to ours) Amazon Wooden Rocking Horse

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The Woman Behind the Blog

WHO’S THAT GIRL? Accepting. Compassionate. Joyful. Fun. Caring. Driven. Energetic. Positive. These are all words that my close friends and family used to describe me in one word. It’s kinda cool to hear what others think about you, and it honestly changes how you look at yourself! Now, who am I? I am Carly. I am a wife, mom, business owner, and Daughter of the King. I was born and raised in San Diego I have two siblings I graduated from California Baptist University with my degree in Psychology and Sociology I met Luke while attending CBU (We started dating in 2011) I married Luke in February 2016 I graduated with my Masters in Psychology in 2016 Worked as a nanny and behavioral therapist Had Henley in August 2018 I attend Praise Chapel Bell Gardens which has been the biggest blessing to me and my family! Surrogacy Journey 2019-2020 (giving birth any day to a baby boy for an amazing family) I blog about Motherhood, Mom Style, Kid Style, Home Decor I live off coffee & dry shampoo I live in high waist mom jeans & cute tops I started this blog in 2018 when I found out I was pregnant with Henley, and I never thought it would transform into what it is today. Blogging and Instagram has been such a fun outlet for me. It has brought me so much joy and has been a place for me to learn, create, and share. I have also met so many other mommas & boss babes through the platform, and have grown to learn SO much about myself over the years! WHAT I DO: First and foremost, I am a momma! Our daughter Henley was born August 2018, and has been the best part of me ever since! Before having Henley, I worked full as a nanny for a little boy with Autism. In this position is where I learned how much I loved not only nannying, but working with kids with Autism. It was a way to pair what I went to school for (Masters in Psychology) as well as my love for helping kids, and working with families. After Henley was born, I started working with a new family part time. I feel so blessed to be able to stay home with her most days, and I’ve learned how much I do love going to work those two days! I get to do what I love, but also get a small “mom” break. It keeps me refreshed and in my opinion, a better mom! This year (2020) I launched my own Nanny Agency business “Henley Rae Agency” (IG: Henley Rae Agency) HRA is a boutique nanny agency that helps place nannies with families in Southern CA, and I specialize in families with neuro-diverse children. I love helping families and nannies find their “perfect match.” This year has also brought me through the journey of surrogacy. You can read more about my why HERE! I am now settling into the role of mom & business owner, and feeling like I am learning an entire new world! Feeling challenged and accomplishing things I never thought I would! I love supporting other amazing boss babes and surviving motherhood with other strong mommas! Reach out to me if you want to connect! Now that you have learned all about ME and my WHY. Check Out these other amazing women & their blogs! Simply click on their photo below to be directed to their blogs or click the link to check out their Instagram! FOLLOW ME OVER ON INSTA!

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Body Confidence during Pregnancy

WOW pregnancy is wild and the first time around can be overwhelming BUT I truly feel there are so many reasons to be 100% confident in yourself and your ever changing body throughout the entirety of your pregnancy (plus that crazy post-partum life too!) Change Your Mental Mindset: Understanding the changes that are happening and appreciating them. Not only is your body changing, but your life will be changing too. Constantly having this mindset of “pre baby” life and “pre baby” body is not healthy! Instead understand that your life will be different in every aspect, but different could be better, and you know what Henley is worth every ounce of change that has occurred in our life and to my body! Organize Your Closet: This helps so much! With our bodies constantly changing, your typical clothing items aren’t going to fit and it really gets in the way of your confidence because nothing fits!!! BUT if you go through your closet and know what fits your body, you’re more likely to feel good about your body changes! This also coincides with getting yourself ready. Get yourself ready a few times a week! Let me tell you, it’s rough some days but 99% of the time it is so worth it! Early pregnancy and nausea is so hard, but even putting on a little mascara changed my entire outlook on how I felt. Be Intimate with your Spouse Let’s be honest, with hormones all over the place, a growing belly, weight gain, and exhaustion, sex is just not something that crosses your mind. It is super common to not feel sexy or like you have your “mojo” but a huge proponent of how we see ourselves during this time is through how we THINK our spouse sees us! I’ll be honest, I was very conscious with how Luke perceived my changing body during Henley’s pregnancy and it showed in our intimacy during different stages of pregnancy. The second time around I have been way more open about the topic and asking him how he feels, and guess what?! it doesn’t bother him one bit, and he doesn’t even think about it. This not only boosted my confidence, but it also changed my mental state of always wondering what Luke thought. When you’re not feeling 100% about how you look, it becomes very easy to believe that your partner finds you less attractive as well, but I’ll be the first to tell you that that’s not the case! So get after it! haha! Show Off that Bump! I honestly think the baby bump is one of the cutest things, so why not show it off! For me personally, wearing something that shows off the bump instead of hiding it makes me feel more confident because I am not in oversized baggy clothes making my body look 10x larger than it actually is! Don’t get me wrong a baggy T and biker shorts are a definite go-to, but there is just something about showing off that curvy bump! Get Into God’s Word: Honestly this is the greatest confidence you will ever receive! God’s love is incredible. I have found that on the day’s I am in His Word, I have happier days which translate into me being more loving toward myself and the changes in my body! Understanding how amazing pregnancy is and what a gift growing a child really is! During surrogacy, I have also realized how incredible it is to be able to even carry a child and get pregnant. There are so many woman who desire and long to carry their own children, that won’t be able to. Being able to do this for someone else has been such an incredible journey and one that I will never take for granted! God designed YOU, your BODY, and that tiny little BABY growing! Psalm 139:13-16 – You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.

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